🔥I began to love myself when I learned to say NO.⁣
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Saying no is not that easy. We are taught (women especially) to please the person in front of us, to make us smaller, not to annoy and above all not to question the statements and actions of our interlocutor.
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As if the space we occupy were less important than that the one occupied by others. As if we had a little less right to exist.⁣
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I suffered the whole life of this “people pleasing” disease, smiling when I wanted to cry, being silent when I wanted to shout and get angry, letting the other’s words or gestures invade my personal space instead of setting clear boundaries.
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I often have the impression that my assertiveness is badly perceived by many, perhaps because we all have this “people pleasing” disease, but without beating around the bush, because as a woman I was educated with the deadly and mortifying ideal of being a “good girl” .⁣
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And when you are a silent doll but a woman who says things as they are, not everyone takes it well, on the contrary, especially those who do not have the courage to say their NO.⁣
I still have a lot to learn, but when certain processes begin they never go back. Fortunately! ⁣
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Loving yourself begins with saying NO, because NO sets boundaries, delimits spaces, makes you take a stand and allows you to make your YES truly a yes, aware and sincere.
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